- Lopsided pleasure featured in most porn – married man recounts addiction
- Although porn is largely created for enjoyment rather than instruction, the notions it promotes are not conducive to a healthy understanding of sex, sexuality, or mutual pleasure.
- Porn has influenced many young people’s sex expectations without them even realizing it.
- Pornography is clearly not a good way to learn about mutually satisfying sex.
- Porn can skew people’s perceptions of sex and relationships, according to study.
Many people write to Fight the New Drug to share about how porn has affected their lives or the lives of loved ones. A married man took to the organization’s bosom and narrated his encounter with pornography from a youthful age and its lopsided pleasure featured in most porn.
Fight the New Drug is an organization that helps people out from pornography addiction. Read below the man’s narration:
“My brothers showed me photographs of topless ladies when I was about five or six years old. I thought it was horrible at first, but the overwhelming images and sensations of attraction it evoked left an indelible impression on me.
“My brothers gradually introduced me to fully nude photographs of women who appeared to be inviting me, a stranger, to have sexual intercourse with them.
“This was how I first learned about human sexual “intimacy”—there was no mention of the woman’s feelings because the most important thing was that I was stimulated and sexually satisfied as a guy (around the age of six or seven at the time).
“My mother also taught me the concept of rape when I was young, with no hint that a woman’s body may feel pleasure from sexual encounters. I understood rape was horrible since the victim didn’t consent, but I didn’t realize it was the ultimate perversion of a relationship that should ordinarily bring both parties reciprocal physical pleasure.
“I became addicted with pornography during my teenage years, therefore I tried hard to break this bad habit.
“I eventually became romantically involved, but porn remained my primary source of understanding about female sexuality. I was utterly unaware that during sexual interactions, a guy has a responsibility to communicate love to a woman by taking into account her feelings and desires, rather than simply gaining consent and then satisfying his own wishes by using her body as a tool for pleasure.
“Those were difficult things to unlearn, and I often wonder if the relationship would have lasted longer or ended on better terms if I hadn’t had to learn them after we started dating.
“I intend to teach my sons that even if a woman says yes, it is better to take it as a no (but never the other way around) if the balance of pleasure is not shifted at least slightly in the woman’s favor, and to prioritize her pleasure above their own.
“Today, I am married to a great woman who adores me and is extremely patient with me.
“We are in love and our relationship is free of pornographic influences. But it took time, and I learnt a lot in the process.”
Clearly, this man has learnt his lessons, the adverse impacts of pornography and has rectified the wrongs.
It is important to reiterate that pornography promotes a lopsided pleasure and it is not healthy for relationships.
Key takeaway points:
- Although porn is largely created for enjoyment rather than instruction, the notions it promotes are not conducive to a healthy understanding of sex, sexuality, or mutual pleasure.
- Porn has influenced many young people’s sex expectations without them even realizing it.
- Pornography is clearly not a good way to learn about mutually satisfying sex.
- Porn can skew people’s perceptions of sex and relationships, according to study.
- Reject the harmful narratives that porn produces. Before we consume, let us analyze the facts.
- “Getting sex advice from someone who has never cooked a meal is like getting culinary advise from someone who has never cooked a meal. Definitely not advised,” Fight the New Drug admonishes.
